I have my LO’s ashes. This person never wanted to discuss or make plans about death. It was like if we do not talk about, it will not happen. I have some ideas how I will handle the situation, but would like to hear from others on this forum what they did with the ashes; other than placing or burial in a cemetery.
you cam even have jewelry made from Ashes.
Lots of people spread them somewhere special that meant something to the person.
LIike if the person enjoyed hiking in the Mountains, then spread them at the top of a mountain.
If the person loved the Beach then spread the Ashes on the sand or in the ocen.
If you don't know of a place, spread the Ashes someplace that makes you happy.
My sis works in long term care and you'd be surprised how many people there have an urn stored away in their closet either because they hope to be interred together or because they didn't take care of things soon enough, what's problematic is when nobody bothers to collect them after the resident passes away.
At my family cemetery, I'm asking my name be added on the headstone with the GPS marker of my ocean resting place.
Back when God was a child, I worked for the Forest Service and I used to write permits for scattering ashes. The permit system was so all the ashes wouldn't be in one place. For instance, if a particular place wasn't requested, I would issue a permit for Black Mountain, next time it would be Thomas Mountain, then Indian Truck Trail and so on.
Many many years ago a friend's grandma wanted to be scattered over the Sierra Nevada Mountains. They rolled her ashes up in a long scarf, flew a small plane over the mountains, and dumped her out. The problem was, the scarf was too short and the wind blew a lot of grandma back in the plane. He said they probably vacuumed as much of Grandma up as got dumped over the Sierras.
What was your LO's hobbies or favorite places? I would start with that.
Sorry about your loss,
Jenna
So much better than a grave that may or may not be visited. I don't think I've visited my Dad's grave in 45 years as it is far away yet Mom's is fluid, literally.
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