My sister and I have different ideas on our mother's money. I have a supplemental trust for my mother and she is the only beneficiary. My sister wants to take the money and spend it on her flying back and forth from NY to Florida and take my mother out for 3 days when I live in Florida and do that without her money. I told her no just in case mom needs the money that medicaid will not cover. She ask BOA for a "copy of the trust" never told me nor did the bank and they gave it to her behind my back. I live in Florida.
I recommend removing them as any kind of trustee and transfering to a smaller local bank's trust and estate department.
Your post is confusing. Can you explain further?