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What options are available to her? She has her own health issues. This is physically and mentally affecting her well being. All caregivers refuse to help as a result of his behavior. He refuses to go to the nursing home
He cannot refuse if there’s no help available to him. His mother needs to refuse to provide care, she’s far too old to keep this up, plus she doesn’t deserve verbal abuse. The power is with her. When she stops trying to help, he will have no options left but nursing home care
She needs to contact social services for her county and talk about options. It may mean he becomes the ward of a court-appointed guardian and is removed to a facility whether he wants to or not. Or, she can contact her local Area Agency on Aging to see if they can direct her to resources.
Your mother needs to learn the word NO, and start using it daily. No I can't care for you any longer. No I can't make you meals anymore. No I can't wipe your butt anymore. You get the idea. Your mother now needs to put her big girl panties on and once and for all stand up for what is not only best for her son, but for herself as well. And of course that is having him placed in the appropriate facility, so she can live out her days in peace, and get back to just being her sons mother and not his burned out and exhausted caregiver. And the rest of you kids need to make sure that you stand beside her in getting your brother placed, as this should have been done years ago. I mean good God your mother is 90 years old!!! How much longer do you want your mother to be used and abused by this physically and mentally sick man? Until she falls over dead from the stress? At 90, she doesn't really have that many more years left anyway, so please allow her to enjoy whatever time she does have left and to be able to live in peace. She deserves that much.
His preference isn't really relevant if he's at risk to himself and others. I know The Greatest Generation are resilient and strong but, c'mon Mom, time to call in the reserves!
What do/es his doctor(s) say? Is there a psychological reason for his behavior or is he just a punk? Or maybe he's so scared of being so helpless that he's lashing out at everyone in self-defense.
Few people are eager to go into a SNF; it's more a suck-it-up-n-get-it-done thing. Adult protective services doesn't HAVE to be involved, but if that's what it takes...
Best wishes to your family, may you find the care and peace everyone needs soon.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Your mother now needs to put her big girl panties on and once and for all stand up for what is not only best for her son, but for herself as well. And of course that is having him placed in the appropriate facility, so she can live out her days in peace, and get back to just being her sons mother and not his burned out and exhausted caregiver.
And the rest of you kids need to make sure that you stand beside her in getting your brother placed, as this should have been done years ago.
I mean good God your mother is 90 years old!!! How much longer do you want your mother to be used and abused by this physically and mentally sick man? Until she falls over dead from the stress?
At 90, she doesn't really have that many more years left anyway, so please allow her to enjoy whatever time she does have left and to be able to live in peace. She deserves that much.
What do/es his doctor(s) say? Is there a psychological reason for his behavior or is he just a punk? Or maybe he's so scared of being so helpless that he's lashing out at everyone in self-defense.
Few people are eager to go into a SNF; it's more a suck-it-up-n-get-it-done thing. Adult protective services doesn't HAVE to be involved, but if that's what it takes...
Best wishes to your family, may you find the care and peace everyone needs soon.