Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
I'm lightedpumken the one that wrote the head line. I want to thank you ALL so much from the bottom of my soul for all your support and answers you have given me in return! You made me happy made my night I feel better. I'll get over it. I do love life and it's people like you that get me through! I thank you all! Hugs! Sheba
Lightedpumkin- Your post is disstressing to me. I am new here and do not want to step on toes but you sound very desperate . If you are truly feeling suicidal I think you should call someone to help you. If you do not have a friend or family member to call you need to call 911 or at least a suicide hotline. I hope you are just venting and do not truly wish you were dead. I know this is a great place to vent as I have been reading posts the last few days. So I hope that is what you are doing. But if you feel very out of control you should call someone, I think. As for your mother saying you are evil you know that that is the disease talking and not her. I am in the beginning stages of taking care of my mother who has had a brain stem stroke , dementia and diagnosed OCD( she has been OCD most of her life) but I have a 16 year old with a genetic syndrome that results in mental retardation and many behavioral problems. She hits me, pushes me and spits on me all the time and she tells me she hates me. So I do understand about being hurt by ones you love. She does these things when she is mad and because she cannot communicate the way she wants and I know this but it is still hard. I have had to train myself not to take it personally. I have had to learn how to not react poorly to her behavior but stay calm. I say things to myself like "this does not have to ruin my day" and I make sure to have a nice activity planned that I can look forward to each day -even if it is only for a few minutes- like playing my spider solitaire or reading some of my favorite book-simple but something that I know I can look forward to so that in times of extreme stress I can think 'this is hard right now but later I will have time to .... ' You said that you have failed. I sincerely doubt that is true! All we can do is try our best!!! Sometimes our best is saying " I am no longer capable of handling this " and I think that is a very noble decision. If you are not able to take care of your mother anymore it does not mean you are failing- it means your mother needs professional help. I hope you are ok. I hope you find help. I will keep you in my prayers.
I feel you. Ive been through the same situation and was told a lot of caregivers for dementia patients experience the same things so you are not alone. I know it is hard for I too was beside myself when it happened to me. I gave up my life to care for my mom too. My job I no longer have, my family is now compromised with the time for my mom so yeah sometimes I feel like I was dead too. But what to do????? I havent found the answer. I just love on my mom and remember it is part of her sickness. That is hard too. Im so sorry that you are going through this but just know that You are not alone. I dont have any answers because I dont know if one exsists but I am praying for you AND me. God Help Us All
My mother has dementia. When she goes into her spells she tells people I'm Evel she don't trust me! I'm hurt and sad and confused what do I do I can't take this anymore!!! Then in about 1 hour she says im sorry I didnt even know I said those things. But I'm mad and resentful I'm crying while I'm writing this I never knew this kind of sickness exist and happen in a life time I hate it I wish I never known about this sickness and that what it is (Mental sickness) no one should have to deal with it! My god if there is one help us or me! I cant take this much more longer. Theses people need special care NO one should have to deal with this only special care people that are trained should deal with theses people!!! It is not right and insane! I did the best I could and I am failing.....I wish I was dead.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I hope you are just venting and do not truly wish you were dead. I know this is a great place to vent as I have been reading posts the last few days. So I hope that is what you are doing. But if you feel very out of control you should call someone, I think.
As for your mother saying you are evil you know that that is the disease talking and not her. I am in the beginning stages of taking care of my mother who has had a brain stem stroke , dementia and diagnosed OCD( she has been OCD most of her life) but I have a 16 year old with a genetic syndrome that results in mental retardation and many behavioral problems. She hits me, pushes me and spits on me all the time and she tells me she hates me. So I do understand about being hurt by ones you love. She does these things when she is mad and because she cannot communicate the way she wants and I know this but it is still hard. I have had to train myself not to take it personally. I have had to learn how to not react poorly to her behavior but stay calm. I say things to myself like "this does not have to ruin my day" and I make sure to have a nice activity planned that I can look forward to each day -even if it is only for a few minutes- like playing my spider solitaire or reading some of my favorite book-simple but something that I know I can look forward to so that in times of extreme stress I can think 'this is hard right now but later I will have time to .... '
You said that you have failed. I sincerely doubt that is true! All we can do is try our best!!! Sometimes our best is saying " I am no longer capable of handling this " and I think that is a very noble decision. If you are not able to take care of your mother anymore it does not mean you are failing- it means your mother needs professional help.
I hope you are ok. I hope you find help. I will keep you in my prayers.