I'm an only child, no siblings to share caregiving. I'm divorced, but in a committed relationship. My mom is in an assisted-livng facility because my dad couldn't care for her. Now, he's at home by himself, asked me to come help him clear out, downsize and update to prepare home for sale. Somewhere along the line, he's changed his mind. I've temporarily moved in to clear out and prepare their home for sale. He's beligerant, disrespectful and expects me to work full time and take care of responsibilities at home. I'm at my wit's end. I'm ready to move back to my own home 2,000 miles away. My mom would be happy to come along;
While you are there you'll get a much better sense of his capabilities and needs.
If both of your parents are wind up in ALF, would they consider moving near you?