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DoggieMom, You are not still now living with mom? Are you? I hope not, because you need at 38 to be more independent, and not so enmeshed with her. Her happiness isn't your problem. You have plenty of your own to concern you. Like your mom, I tend toward OCD (after N.'s recent bout in hospital I was home literally lining up things on his dresser, comb, keys, wallet in STRAIGHT LINES, so I can sympathize with your mom if you and doggies are in her home. I would NOT be kind! Just saying, that's a fact. My home, my rules. And I think you shouldn't have to live by her rules, so out you go. Where SHE GOES is up to her. You have your seperate lives and meet and enjoy where you can.

Speaking of meet and enjoy, I am heading to our DeYoung Museum next week to meet a friend and see the Lempicki exhibit. Will be the first time I have been there since I managed to knock down a perfectly nice doctor, aged 85. Or we knocked into one another and he was the one to go down. A bit nervous. Will be watching where I am going this time!

I am assuming that NO ONE here has heard from Need. I do not believe she would voluntarily leave us this long with no one here having an explanation; she was too devoted to this site. It makes me really sad not to know anything about this. Now RealyReal is off grid, too? But I think she does have a busy life other than us.

Bundle, you will be missed! I see you out there making another collection of one-liners for us, or hoping we will forget the others you did before. For me, that's a given, that forgetfulness thing.
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Doggiemom, I have not commented much because I feel rather strongly that you do not bring pets home to others.

We had a horrible time getting my step daughter to understand that. She tried so hard to bring her 2 huskies, in are home, and are 3 cats hated them and they stayed in the basement when she was here, trying like heck to pawn her doggy duties off on us. In the end it ended very ugly, which is sad for her because, me and her dad , could of been much help to her in life, but she didn't want that help she wanted to take over my home , with constant dog fur, honestly they where just destroying everything.

I do know that is not what you are doing, but I'm a firm believer, that if say my stepson, that lives upstairs, wants a dog we all have to want a dog also. If any of are kids just assume they are moving in and bringing there dogs with them, that is a GIGANTIC no from both of us.

I love dogs, but I won't even dog sit. I had a neighbor wanted me to feed her dog while the went away, I said NO, because I new that would keep happening, I have a life and I don't want my time taking up with others pets. If I want a dog I'll get a dog!

I do on occasion, sit for one neighbors dog, but that's only because it when he absolutely needs to do something.

I can imagine have OCD it must be even harder for mom.

Alva, I just googled your museum, look like a really great place to go. Hope your trip goes better this time,!
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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Ok, that makes sense, just id say, maybe be a bit more patient with mom, and understand that the dogs have changed her everyday life.

And to add, I see a lot of people my kids generation, waiting my generation to treat there dogs like they would if they were are grandchildren.

I suspect that is a generation gap thing.

And there is nothing wrong with it either way. But I think my sons generation shouldnt be angry or annoyed at my generation if we don't.
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