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My only support gone. One sick, one out of area with sick mom. Don't know what to do. Have reached out to churches & senior support groups with no success. Senior care agencies are very expensive in my area.
I'd like to suggest your local library. if you can't get there, call them to see if they have "outreach" which means they will bring books and DVDs to you once a month. You can learn new skills from DVDs -- Ballroom dancing, knitting, home repair. You can also learn things online. Are you on a computer?
If you can get to the library, they often have a schedule of free adult programs. The librarians will help you get online, get an email account, Facebook. Online classes in computer, learn other languages, listen to audiobooks -- all from your library's website.
Nextdoor.com is a neighborhood page, you can get to know your neighbors. Maybe somebody needs YOU. Is there a young mother near you who could use a babysitter now and then? Is there someone who could use a pet sitter? Is there another caregiver who could use a respite visit?
Online you can begin to comment and contribute to the causes you believe in. And learn about the needs in the world that you can help with. The librarians will help you learn to use a smart phone, and help you if you want to get started with Uber (or Lyft if that's in your area.) Cheaper than taxi service. Another idea -- advertise in your local paper for a driver. Maybe there is a teenager who just got their license who will drive you to the library and the grocery for an affordable fee. Good luck!
Yes. Go online and search for Senior Housing, Senior Apartments in your state or city & state. You will see listings of Independent Living communities. You will find that many offer free transportation (to doctor appointments, shopping..) with the added bonus of meeting new neighbors & organized social activities. With the aging baby boomers, there are tons of these communities and many are affordable and income based.
It CAN be very scary, and I do feel your pain. But it doesn't HAVE to be scary. More and more I'm realizing that we feel lonely when we make comparisons with other people's lives. When we truly, fully stop, we have a chance to define ourselves and our lives as we please.
Sendhelp is right. You have a choice. If you decide to see yourself as a warrior, you'll be ready to build the happiest life a strong, resilient woman can have.
with many thoughts of strength and you do have friends, we are here ! :)
I am 68 and not sure what I would do without DH. I am from a town of about 13,000. I have lived here all my life. A local Church has a Bible study every Weds morning, these ladies go to lunch afterwards. A group of woman get together once a month for lunch and I join them. As does a group of Class members. Maybe a course at a local County College. If not on Facebook, sign up. You can "friend" former friends and relatives. You will be surprised by making these contacts some old friends will friend you. This is how I found out about these luncheons. When it comes to transportation call your Office of Aging to see if they have Senior bussing. They take you to appts and shopping. They may also have info on their services and help you find others. Please don't be like a friend I have. She complains to everyone who will listen but she won't do anything for herself. Do u belong to a Church? Check and see if they have a grief group. If u don't, check around and see if any of ur Churches have one. They usually allow non-members. You may want to check out independent living. Some don't cost too much more than renting an apartment. You will have ur own apartment. Get meals. They have transportation and activities. Good Luck.
Kaseydog, For you, I recommend the movie: Boynton Beach Club, starring Dyan Cannon. 2005
It is a romantic comedy, but the part played by Brenda Vaccarro has her driving and starting her new life as a widow, content to live alone with her dog she never knew she wanted.
Kaseydog, You are at an age, just on the precipice of being able to start a new life! Yes, really you are. Not too late to get your license to drive, if you will. And other good things to do.
But hurry, hardly any time to grieve, is there? Start with a class often given at senior centers on senior driving safety.
That "precipice" has either a steep decline or a mountain of possibilities to climb when you decide to go for it. I hope you will try.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you can get to the library, they often have a schedule of free adult programs. The librarians will help you get online, get an email account, Facebook. Online classes in computer, learn other languages, listen to audiobooks -- all from your library's website.
Nextdoor.com is a neighborhood page, you can get to know your neighbors. Maybe somebody needs YOU. Is there a young mother near you who could use a babysitter now and then? Is there someone who could use a pet sitter? Is there another caregiver who could use a respite visit?
Online you can begin to comment and contribute to the causes you believe in. And learn about the needs in the world that you can help with. The librarians will help you learn to use a smart phone, and help you if you want to get started with Uber (or Lyft if that's in your area.) Cheaper than taxi service. Another idea -- advertise in your local paper for a driver. Maybe there is a teenager who just got their license who will drive you to the library and the grocery for an affordable fee. Good luck!
It CAN be very scary, and I do feel your pain. But it doesn't HAVE to be scary.
More and more I'm realizing that we feel lonely when we make comparisons with other people's lives. When we truly, fully stop, we have a chance to define ourselves and our lives as we please.
Sendhelp is right. You have a choice. If you decide to see yourself as a warrior, you'll be ready to build the happiest life a strong, resilient woman can have.
with many thoughts of strength
and you do have friends, we are here ! :)
For you, I recommend the movie: Boynton Beach Club, starring Dyan Cannon. 2005
It is a romantic comedy, but the part played by Brenda Vaccarro has her driving and starting her new life as a widow, content to live alone with her dog she never knew she wanted.
You are at an age, just on the precipice of being able to start a new life! Yes, really you are.
Not too late to get your license to drive, if you will.
And other good things to do.
But hurry, hardly any time to grieve, is there? Start with a class often given at senior centers on senior driving safety.
That "precipice" has either a steep decline or a mountain of possibilities to climb when you decide to go for it. I hope you will try.
So sorry for your loss.
You don't drive, there's little to no transport provision available, home help where you live is extremely expensive, you are feeling isolated...
Um. Why would you *not* want to move?
Have you considered locating to an area that is more senior-friendly?