My father in law lives in Florida, we live in the UK. We spent Christmas with him last year He was constantly receiving phone calls from two girls from a family down the street. The family is known to us, but the thing is the mother. She gets the girls to call and ask for money or gifts. His dad is catholic and loves children, and when we asked him about this he said the kids have nothing and I want to help. While we were there we found utility bills, cell phone bills and others of which are the other families. We also found a Christmas list of top of the range cameras, clothes and a in ground trampoline which they asked my father in law to buy them. He already pays for private school and tennis coaching for the older girl. This family are bleeding him dry and he sees nothing wrong with what there doing. The mother of the girls is divorced with 2 older children. She lives in a huge home and recently had a pool built and new car, she doesn't work so my guess is he's paid for this too. She knows we are moving back to help my father in law and asked her girls for the local catholic priest to make her girls his holy grand children. He's a wealthy man, we wouldn't be so concerned if she helped him around the home but all she does is take from him. There has to be something we can do??? Is this illegal what she's doing??
It's driving us crazy, we really don't know what she will do next.
Thank you
Is he competent? If so, he can do whatever he wants. Many men are taken in by sexy/trashy women when they get older.
Does he have any normal friends near where he lives or is this family his main source of social interaction? What do some of his old friends say about his behavior and the situation?
Any chance your dad would move to the UK with you?
Sounds to me like that blood-sucking, golddigging parasite won't stop until there's nothing left. Talk to the DA; and ask how you can expose her and protect other kind-hearted men hoping for something they'll never get.
If his mental faculties are fine, however, you just might have to moan and groan as he fritters his money away and caters to that sk ___'s every whim.
Wish you the best.
-- ED
Is your father able to or willing to move to another house away from this woman?I am afraid that if you can't get distance between you father in law and this woman its going to be harder to stop her stealing. Cause it seems your father in law is okay doing things for her.
Janet: the DA it is! try a call to the district attorney's investigators office and see what you can find out about the local law and this situation of elder ABUSE.
You could arrange to have him declared incompetent to handle his financial affairs. Nasty, yes but if it is warranted...? It appears that he is not making good financial decisions and is arguing with you guys about it because that's what the elderly do when they are losing it. sad but true.
Just because someone has money is no excuse for this gold digger's behavior. that money is his and should be used for him and the people taking care of him not her and her family. don't expect her to do anything for him. that's not the way the takers operate.
Nice values she's teaching the kids, yes?
More caregivers will post with more ideas and you will have a slew to pick from!
good luck with this and keep us posted.
lovbob
Good luck to you!