She will be private pay for hopefully a year and a half more.
The bad news. She now has advanced to gait apraxia. Disease advanced to point she is in wheelchair. Can barely stand, that's going too. On depends.
You ask yourself is it because she is in memory care? On psychotropic meds due to behaviour? Advancement of disease?
It is the latter. It is still hard and guilt inducing.
We have erased through disposal of stuff and sale of house her footprint in home city. It is surprisingly emotional for me. Since I was 18, a very long time ago, I have not known her not to own lots of real estate.
Bur we have funds for her care.
We had to move them 2 more times for health reasons into my Sisters attached MIL apartment where they live and declined for another 8 years, and then to my eldest sister home where their diseases got the best of them.
Tthankfully with 6 of us helping plus our spouses and the older grandkids, we were lucky to be able to keep them in the family setting, but believe me, it does take a village!
I understand how painful it must be, seeing your Mom diminish, and her life and dreams are liquidated, but she has you, and that is really all that matters in the end! The rest of it is just stuff, so keep ahold of some treasures and the happy memories, and that will get you through the rough parts. She is very lucky to have such a hardworking, loyal and Loving Daughter in you! Grieve as you will, but do take care of yourself!
We got that value and then some. Just do it.
She has been in memory care now for 5 months. This is pretty rapid.
Selling your parent's home is not easy either. The memories and good times that you experienced are still with you, but the physical building is not.
It is okay to grieve the loss of your Mom's health (AKA anticipatory grief) and the loss of your Mom's house. Let these emotions come, acknowledge them and then let them go.
{{{HUGS}}}