Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Also even Instagram, you have to be careful what you like, or you will just get more and more, of that kind of stuff.
Also id suggest, if you really feel the need to know what's going on, I would stick to reading it, and stick to the headlines. You can scroll through the stuff you don't want to read about, and honestly it seems a lot less dramatic, than listening to the news
My "third place" would be anywhere in the condo buildings outside of our unit - in the elevator, getting the mail, walking in the parkade, doing the jigsaw in the second floor lounge. People are friendly but not intrusive. I don't need a lot of company.
Alva, sorry you took a tumble. Hope you heal soon.
How did I not know that?
My dH knew it.
News:
I sometimes rely on my friends to inform me of important news.
Otherwise, I am busy with ADL's.
Have you tried you local library, they might have free classes to. Or a new hobby, Last winter I taught myself how to knit.I made to scarfs and that was the end of my knitting, I may pick it up someday again, who knows.
Sometimes if I need to see people, I'll just go to are local convenient store. Or wonder some or are locally owned gift shops.
I do understand and go through this also, if I remember right , you live alone?
Alva tell N , to shut the News off, doctors orders! 😂
N. loves news and is a true junky and to tell you the truth it simply is NOT making him happier in his dotage.
I'm a news junkie and I think I'm going to have to totally eliminate that from my life and live in wilful, blissful ignorance if I want to survive.
Oh I'm just coming back to add - things don't have to be overt and in your face to be toxic, just the constant repetition of gloom and doom negativity can be poisonous.
I do facebook but honestly I don't do anything that is toxic.
You know how it goes on those sites, in that what you click on or respond to is what they FEED you and that's even true of Nextdoor which I do little of, perhaps once a week.
I get mostly in my feet animal videos, recipes and art art art art art and photography. That is because the art is what I click on and share the most. Now recently I did click on a snake because it was a huge snake trying to encircle a deer and I wanted to report it. The result of that is that there are now snakes everywhere on my feed. I mean one snake actually was wearing a black curly long wig. Kind of cute. He was raised off the ground a bit like a cobra will do and was wearing a long black wig.
What can I tell you.
But nothing is very toxic there, and I just need to stay out of toxic.
Hard enough to stand up in the streets nowadays. Took a header off one of our broken sidewalks because I was busy watching a small tree coming up to replace a tree removed with the stump left. That will teach me. Sore left knee and right shoulder and a nasty hand scrape. I shall need extra pizza on this one tonight.
There are many places I prefer not to go now.
Sorry that sad memories come up, but the world has so many places
to go instead of malls.
Let me know if you find some places to go.
My dH and I stop by a park with a view to eat our In N Out burgers, on the way home from the burger place.
Just last night, during the time when my computer actually works for 1/2 hour,
I was blocking senders of toxic reels. They just recently increased in number and content. The content I did want to see was hidden by so many other postings.
By "third place" what do you mean? Something different than a mall, maybe?
A place to walk, be around people?
What has been your best experience during the Thanksgiving season in the past?
The past 3 days, I was without a remote to turn on and navigate my Roku T.V.
Using the T.V., (I am sure too much for my health but I need a distraction), has not helped me much to get out and leave the house. I survived, and adjusted my thinking, increasing my common sense.
It turns out that dH has a hoarded collection of about 12-15 remotes. I insisted on using the remotes, after recalling he has these!
When I do get out in the neighborhood, sometimes it is empty.
Other times, other hours, there are many friendly neighbors. Just being out front potting some new plants, people stop by. It lessens the friction between my dH and I to have a third person involved.
I can't go to a mall now without missing mom terribly.
They use to be so much a part of my life, I don't even consider them anymore.
I occasionally will run into the back side of a store in the mall , but never have any interest in going in.
If I want to walk I'd much rather be outside. Unless, it's the cold that makes you feel like your lungs are going to freeze.
But I'm sure walking a mall is safer , so I get that part.
Everyone thinks, that the adopted dad had something to do with it. Him and the adopted mom, moved away. His adopted GMA, has been his voice, and support ever since. I except, GMA has nothing to do with her daughter either.
17 long years we have been thinking about Jaliek, and praying for him to be found, and hopping it leads to his adopted fathers arrest.
Hopefully will know soon! 😥, it's quite an emotional time.
They just found remains of a young person in a near by town, they think it's him.
😥, are town never forgot him.
I don’t know if they apply to your situation down the thread but even if they don’t, they are fascinating.
Im asking because I've considered getting tested for dyslexia, I just feel a bit somewhat of a lier saying I am when I don't have the official diagnosis.
But I don't feel like it's worth the money or time, I decided I identify with dyslexics so I'm not lying, and going to forget that Idea.
So if you decide not to just do like I'm gonna do.
I'm curious, if I'm overstepping no worries, please don't take offence but was it you that wanted to get tested for autism? I'm just curious if and how that went
My last degree is nearly finished and looking into a career as a librarian at the elementary to middle school level. I did that for one year and liked it so hope I can find something again, but probably not in this area.
I think you are so right about not being able to understand evil people when you aren't one.
I recently heard a thing from a bunch of psychologists who said that the prison system should not be counseling psychopatic personalities. They feel this is almost certainly a "brain thing" that can't be hurt, but WORSE is that the psychologists say they are USING THEM to learn. They practice all the things to say "They found faith", they "understand what happened to them due to whatever and are working on it" and on and on.
The shrinks all say that they are just being used, and that they are realizing they are being told exactly what they want to hear because the psychotics are masters of manipulation and completely without morals and empathy. Amoral.
It was pretty fascinating.
In my humble opinion, just steer clear of the real sick folks out there to the best of your ability.
I found out its very deep, I just don't think I can be friends with some that has so much hate in her heart.
My younger brother, is the evil one you talk about bundle.
How many times in my life I've met someone and was thinking, 🤔 hummmm, but ignored my gut, only to find out later that I should of listened to my gut
I also strongly agree with if they come on too strong. I met a lady during the pandemic, was lonely , she asked me if I wanted to go for a walk with her. I did, she said things like , we are best friends now and we are going to do this and that. My red flags went up and I never did anything with her again.
People that come on too strong are a huge red flag.
My sister will be alone in a room with me, agree with everything I say, and then I hear her alone with my brother agree with everything he says. Me and my older brother are on complete opposite sides of the fence. We have learned to not discuss curtain issues, and do well , navigating are differences, but my sister agreeing with both sides is another huge red flag for me. That she is not real or trust worthy